How to Accept Compliments Without Feeling Like a Fraud

Have you ever received a compliment and immediately downplayed it? Maybe someone praised your work, and your first instinct was to say, “Oh, it was nothing,” or “I just got lucky."

If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many high achievers with imposter syndrome struggle to accept praise. Compliments can feel uncomfortable because they contradict the self-doubt playing in your mind. But here’s the truth: deflecting compliments doesn’t make you humble—it reinforces self-doubt.

So how can you accept compliments without feeling like a fraud? Try these five simple shifts:

1. Say “Thank You” – and Stop There

Your knee-jerk reaction might be to minimize the compliment, but resist the urge. Instead, just say “thank you” and allow yourself to receive the recognition. No justifications, no “buts.” Let it sink in.

2. Reframe Compliments as Data

If you feel like you didn’t “deserve” the praise, remind yourself that compliments are just objective feedback from others. People see your strengths more clearly than your inner critic does. Trust their words.

3. Pay It Forward

If praise makes you uncomfortable, redirect that energy positively. Instead of deflecting, acknowledge the compliment and pay it forward by uplifting others. For example, if someone praises your leadership, you might respond with, “Thank you! I’ve learned a lot from working with such a great team.”

4. Remind Yourself That Effort Counts

Imposter syndrome convinces us that only “natural talent” deserves recognition, but that’s a myth. Hard work, dedication, and learning count just as much. The next time someone compliments your success, remind yourself: I put in the effort, and that effort is worth recognizing.

5. Keep a “Wins” Journal

If imposter syndrome makes you dismiss your accomplishments, start tracking them. Keep a running list of positive feedback, successful projects, or moments when you made an impact. When self-doubt creeps in, revisit that list as proof of your value.

Final Thought: You Are Worthy of Praise

Accepting compliments isn’t arrogance—it’s acknowledging the hard work, skills, and effort you’ve put in. The next time someone gives you praise, take a deep breath, smile, and own it. You’ve earned it.